It’s the highlight of most high school kids’ educational careers; the day they get to go celebrate 11 and/or 12 years of academic achievement with a dance alongside their peers. For most high school kids, it’s their version of the Academy Awards. Who takes who becomes the topic among Juniors and Seniors, and who’s going stag is the gossip that runs in notes passed under the desk -or in more modern times- text messages or Facebook wall posts.
For me, I had no interest in going at all. Not because I had or didn’t have a date, but because of the social cliques, hypocrisy and politics that come along with the event, and watching what I saw on the news the other night, solidifies my opinion of the prom.
What I saw were teenage girls, mostly in their Junior year, convincing their parents to spend at minimum $3000.00 on designer dresses, plus extra money for facials, manicures, pedicures, designer shoes, hair and transportation. In the end, these parents paid up to a minimum of $8000.00 for their daughters’ Junior prom!
My jaw fell to the floor hearing this.
I could not believe that a parent would spend $10,000.00 on a Junior prom, which is a car payment or a decent down payment on a home. I can’t fathom how anyone would pay that kind of money for a school dance with the economy the way it is. Sure, I love my daughter and would always want the best for her, but at the risk of going broke for a dance, NO!
This behavior does not teach these children good monetary values, and gives in to the notion that they can get whatever they want, whenever they want it. I know this is a once in a lifetime event, but you can go twice, and some of these girls will. That means their parents will spend conservatively $16,000.00 for two proms and liberally around $20 to $30,000.00
When the parents were interviewed I got a real sense of the “true meaning” behind their actions. “I always wanted something like this for me when I went to my prom. I want my daughter to be beautiful and the talk of the prom, so any amount of money it takes to make that happen… then so be it,” stated one mother.
Let’s dissect this, shall we?
“I am going through a midlife crisis, I don’t feel pretty enough and if my daughter is the talk of the prom, they know that she got her good looks from me. I also don’t want to upset my daughter by not giving her what she wants, so I’d rather be her friend and make her happy,” confided another mom.
You could tell the girls were spoiled and damaged from the bad example their parents were setting when they were interviewed. One girl said, and I quote, “I feel bad for all the less fortunate girls who don’t get the chance to have the dress and experience I will have at this prom. It’s a shame that their parents are not well off enough to give their daughters what they deserve.”
Really?
First of all, those girls are very much normal and are not less fortunate. And if the supposed “more fortunate” teens knew that their parents were taking out second mortgages and taking second jobs to afford these luxuries for them, they might think twice. In fact, most of the parents that are doing this for their children are making less than $50,000.00 combined income a year.
Now as far as budget, I could see $800.00 conservatively and maybe at most, $1100.00 for a prom. Limos are expensive, dresses can run in the mid $200.00 range and hair and nails can be pricey. However, they don’t look any less beautiful because they are not wearing designer clothes and went broke obtaining them.
I don’t see these girls any less happy, nor have I ever seen them having any less fun than the girls that spent $10,000.00 or more on their prom experience. To me, that says you spent yourself into the hole for nothing.
I realized long ago that clothes do not make you more beautiful. Neither do jewelry, nails, hair, makeup, accessories, perfume or other enhancements. What makes someone beautiful is their heart, and someone who appreciates what life gives them and uses it to the fullest. Beauty comes from being happy with yourself.
I know over the years that America has become a very vain place filled with greed and self love. I’m ashamed that people are spending beyond their means to please their daughter, as opposed to teaching them the value of a dollar, and the moral that it’s okay to not have everything you want, and yet you can still be happy.
This kind of behavior must stop. If these parents were able to pay for this without going into debt then it’s acceptable for them to do this kind of thing. It is fun to splurge on your daughter, but wouldn’t it make more sense to splurge on her wedding?
We must examine our priorities and realize that beauty isn’t everything. A simple car accident, slip and fall or chemical accident could change that in the blink of an eye.
That’s my opinion. It’s okay to disagree with me, but realize that if we don’t teach our children the value of a dollar, the true meaning of beauty, and to live within our means, America is guaranteed to be bankrupt in just a few years as it’s already heading there.




















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